The therapist uncovers common issues your friends and family are secretly struggling with
Therapist shares things people are embarrassed to tell friends She says sexless marriages are common as well as feeling relieved after death and not being a mother
A therapist shared three things many of her clients tell her they are afraid to talk about with their friends and family.
Emma Mahoney is a mental health therapist and says there are many things people keep secret despite struggling with the same issue.
He says sexless marriages, people feeling relieved when someone dies of a long illness and mothers not being able to enjoy motherhood are more common than people think.
Emma, who is from the US, gives the ‘scoop’ about what people are talking about in therapy that they don’t share with anyone else.
‘I know this because I’m a therapist so I know all these things but I know a lot of people aren’t talking about it among their friends,’ she said in an online video.
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Mental health therapist Emma Mahoney (pictured) shares the ‘scoop’ about what people talk about in therapy but not with family and friends with sexless relationships
‘Hopefully, it makes you feel a little less alone.’
First, Emma said that not having sex with a partner is not as rare as people realize.
‘There’s a lot of shame around it and a lot of people don’t know how to approach it with their partner and don’t know if they want to work on it with them,’ she explained.
‘(They) think they can’t bring it up with their friends because sex is an integral part of a relationship but it’s completely absent from them.’
Second, therapists say many people feel relieved after someone dies who has struggled with a long illness or been in care for years.
Emma said it’s not uncommon to not have sex with a partner: ‘(They) think they can’t bring it up with their friends because sex is an integral part of a relationship’.
She said she has met many mothers who feel guilty for not enjoying motherhood more: ‘They sometimes don’t want to be mothers and they wish they could turn back time and not have children’.
‘Many people struggle with this feeling of not allowing themselves to feel a sense of relief now that they no longer have to take care of this person,’ she said.
Finally, she said she has met many mothers who feel guilty for not enjoying motherhood.
‘They sometimes don’t want to be mums and they wish they could turn back time and not have babies,’ said Emma.
‘People are afraid to tell other mums because it’s the best thing in their life but sometimes they hate it so much.’
Emma’s talking points struck a chord with many viewers who said the issues needed to be talked about more and ‘normalised’.
‘I need my mum to start talking about hating motherhood,’ said one mum to whom a second replied: ‘I love my kids but I never say congratulations when I see a pregnancy announcement from it because I want to say’ Good luck.’
The therapist reveals what people talk about in therapy but keep from family and friends
Feeling relieved when a family member in a sexless relationship dies after a long illness Wishing they didn’t have a baby Not having destructive thoughts about harming their baby, partner or themselves Don’t want to hear about their friend’s baby and pregnancy success They want a baby but Thoughts Pregnancy and childbirth don’t seem worth it Difficult to make friends A very different financial situation Their relationship with alcohol An ex-partner Mothers feel like their partner doesn’t understand or realize how much they are doing for the family Questioning and considering Making decisions about criticizing or ‘bullying’ themselves about their sexuality Deciding whether or not to leave a long-term relationship Making decisions about food and their relationship with their bodies Coming to terms with not liking certain family members
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‘Mother hit one hard. Motherhood was 100 times harder than I imagined. I am very tired. It’s so relentless,’ wrote a third.
‘Generally miss the person you were before having children, while also loving your children unconditionally,’ agrees another mother.
More parents said they feel ‘ashamed’, ’embarrassed’ and guilty’ for not always enjoying their children but Emma’s clip made them feel they were ‘not going crazy’.
Others relate to their lack of sexuality and maintaining complex feelings after someone dies for fear of judgment.
‘Can we stop pretending our sex lives are incredible when they’re not?! We all go through dry spells yet everyone ‘gets it every time’,’ one viewer responded.
‘The sex one is so real. I think a lot of people lie about it and sex shouldn’t be an act,’ shouted another.
‘My grandmother was a carer for my mentally ill grandfather for 17 years after a car accident. The first thing he said after his death was: I will finally rest,’ recalled a third.
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